Burned Toast Thinking
There is a story out there about mothers eating the burned toast so that their family has good toast. It’s become a metaphor of sorts for putting yourself last. For not feeling that you deserve something better. I’m not going to get into the whys of this. I suppose some of it is the way our societal roles were modeled by our parents. And it’s only natural that we want the best for our children when resources are limited. And it’s not just parenting. We’ve all done without things so that someone we love can have something nice, even if it’s just toast. But I want to suggest that we might still be doing this unconsciously, out of habit. Even when it’s no longer necessary. Even when there’s no good reason. Yesterday, I donated all my plastic drawer units to Habitat for Humanity ReStore. Those drawers were a godsend when I found them at a garage sale many years ago. With three kids and a tiny house, I was working out of my bedroom and space was a premium. With both of us out of work at the time, money was also a premium. Those drawer units came at a perfect time in my life and served me very well! But even when I could afford better, and as my storage needs expanded, I bought more plastic drawer units. And then I bought cheap particle board bookcases to put them into. Soon, my studio was a hodge-podge mess of plastic